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<rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><atom:link rel="hub" href="http://tumblr.superfeedr.com/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"/><description>quarender: a dark red apple</description><title>forelsket</title><generator>Tumblr (3.0; @quarender)</generator><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/</link><item><title>in everything i do, i just want it to be about You.is it so wrong to wish that were true for other...</title><description>&lt;p&gt;in everything i do, i just want it to be about You.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;span&gt;is it so wrong to wish that were true for other christians, esp catholics? ):&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;please tell me what i think is wrong. i so desperately want it to be wrong. it&amp;#8217;s gotta be wrong. please, G. i ask for many things, but none so [seemingly] real as this.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52787298786</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52787298786</guid><pubDate>Wed, 12 Jun 2013 09:21:03 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>other-wordly:

pronunciation | ‘nU-mi-nusnote | The word...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/9a998de4c1f867f306825f7034f63fdb/tumblr_mo7g5bRDlX1r6nm6ao1_500.png"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://other-wordly.tumblr.com/post/52672250866/pronunciation-nu-mi-nus-note-the-word" target="_blank"&gt;other-wordly&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;sub&gt;pronunciation | &lt;a href="http://other-wordly.tumblr.com/pronunciation" target="_blank"&gt;‘nU-mi-nus&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/a&gt;note | The word originated in religious usage, but it can be applied to natural experiences as well as supernatural. It can also mean “suggesting the presence of something holy or divine”.&lt;/sub&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52784733272</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52784733272</guid><pubDate>Wed, 12 Jun 2013 08:12:59 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>give me a heart for Your people, so i will always have time to shepherd Your lambs.
in other words,...</title><description>&lt;p&gt;give me a heart for Your people, so i will always have time to shepherd Your lambs.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;in other words, compassion is the new humility.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52704911129</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52704911129</guid><pubDate>Tue, 11 Jun 2013 09:01:38 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>reminder to self</title><description>&lt;p&gt;i am so irascible. &lt;span&gt;the fault lies with me. the fault lies with me. the fault lies with me. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;not entirely, of course. but definitely more than i would like to admit. humility is both a science and an art, is the one thing i can afford to have more of. because i&amp;#8217;ll only have no space for judgement when i&amp;#8217;m filled by humility.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;G, teach me to see Your people as You do- beloved Children who are meant for greater things, not the little that they settle for. we can always take the higher path. always; &lt;em&gt;always&lt;/em&gt;. and it begins with me.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52541582265</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52541582265</guid><pubDate>Sun, 09 Jun 2013 09:08:55 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>wordscanbesexy:

heatherbat:

callmebliss:

hellotailor:

rubdown...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/16ea66b994439ac57f8d29e2176c639f/tumblr_mmhiuuCxFn1s5cyzso1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://wordscanbesexy.tumblr.com/post/52073670108/heatherbat-callmebliss-hellotailor" target="_blank"&gt;wordscanbesexy&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://heatherbat.tumblr.com/post/52072955391/callmebliss-hellotailor-rubdown" target="_blank"&gt;heatherbat&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://callmebliss.tumblr.com/post/52072028775/hellotailor-rubdown-lovelymoonbeams" target="_blank"&gt;callmebliss&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://hellotailor.tumblr.com/post/50595651738/rubdown-lovelymoonbeams-stunningpicture" target="_blank"&gt;hellotailor&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://rubdown.tumblr.com/post/50534404310/lovelymoonbeams-stunningpicture-cause" target="_blank"&gt;rubdown&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://lovelymoonbeams.tumblr.com/post/50447852681/stunningpicture-cause-people-seem-to-only-post" target="_blank"&gt;lovelymoonbeams&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://stunningpicture.tumblr.com/post/49935702637/cause-people-seem-to-only-post-the-20-something" target="_blank"&gt;stunningpicture&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;‘Cause people seem to only post the 20-something Audrey Hepburn&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;this is genuinely the first photo i’ve seen of her looking older&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I didn’t know Audrey Hepburn grew old into a bomb-ass old lady until like, last year. I thought she died young cuz that’s the only pictures I’ve ever seen. &lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;omg&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;3&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;she was also the granddaughter of a baron, the daughter of a nazi sympathizer, spent her teens doing ballet to secretly raise money for the dutch resistance against the nazis, and spent her post-film career as a goodwill ambassador of UNICEF, winning the presidential medal of freedom for her efforts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;and history remembers her as pretty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;\o/&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;and history remembers her as pretty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;and history remembers her as pretty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;and history remembers her as pretty.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52465268456</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52465268456</guid><pubDate>Sat, 08 Jun 2013 11:30:26 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>friendlove</title><description>&lt;p&gt;i hope you / we never exceed y/our awesome-friend capacit(ies) because i only want you in my life if we can stay platonic friends.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;yep, time to face up to cruel truths about selfishness. ugliness is no less ugly for being locked up on the inside.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52463018695</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52463018695</guid><pubDate>Sat, 08 Jun 2013 10:53:00 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>惡の華</title><description>&lt;p&gt;can&amp;#8217;t burn out studying vs insufficient time to cover everything&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;choices.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="v gb"&gt;Be vigorous, but do not sin:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="vi"&gt;  speak in the silence of your heart,&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="vi"&gt;  in your bed, be at rest.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="v"&gt;Offer righteousness as a sacrifice,&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="v"&gt;&lt;span&gt;      and put your trust in the Lord.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div class="v"&gt;&lt;span&gt;ps 4&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52461276108</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52461276108</guid><pubDate>Sat, 08 Jun 2013 10:23:31 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>okay, so exco induction is really over and i am so excited for this batch- because i think it...</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;span&gt;okay, so exco induction is really over and i am so excited for this batch- because i think it matters less to start well than to end well (:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;also, note to self- in the long run, sacrifices have to be made, because there are harder ones still to come; and i can&amp;#8217;t make those if i don&amp;#8217;t begin small.&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span&gt;His lord said to him, Well done, good and faithful servant; you have been faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things: enter you into the joy of your lord.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span&gt;matt 25:23 (niv)&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;em&gt;i can&amp;#8217;t do this without You. i can&amp;#8217;t do without You.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span&gt;Your majesty humbles; the King has me (:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52387159781</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52387159781</guid><pubDate>Fri, 07 Jun 2013 12:32:00 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>aseaofquotes:

Judy Blume, Tiger Eyes
</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/2d2152300bc0ae85d20e806c6c0e210a/tumblr_mnvw2ask4X1r46fnpo1_500.png"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://www.aseaofquotes.com/post/52276635676/judy-blume-tiger-eyes" target="_blank"&gt;aseaofquotes&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Judy Blume, &lt;em&gt;Tiger Eyes&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52297735723</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52297735723</guid><pubDate>Thu, 06 Jun 2013 09:06:28 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>"I cling to Jesus with every fiber of my being because He is unfailing, He is absolute, He is..."</title><description>“I cling to Jesus with every fiber of my being because He is unfailing, He is absolute, He is steadfast and His grace is deeper and wider than my imagination can even fathom. In Him and Him alone is where I’ve discovered a hope more bright and beautiful than words can possibly describe.”&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; - &lt;em&gt;&lt;p&gt;Adam Young (via &lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://nonelikejesus.tumblr.com/" target="_blank"&gt;nonelikejesus&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;i’m gonna be alright (: You’ve got me in Your hands.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;ok. definitely gonna sleep early tonight.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52135868683</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52135868683</guid><pubDate>Tue, 04 Jun 2013 08:39:51 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>need more humility</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;div&gt;i&amp;#8217;m bad at this.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;it&amp;#8217;s not about me it&amp;#8217;s not about me it&amp;#8217;s never about me sigh internalise already, self.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;so much for humility&amp;#8230;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;i&amp;#8217;m trying G i&amp;#8217;m trying i&amp;#8217;m trying. can You tell? that i really am trying? i&amp;#8217;m sorry for being so horribad and unlovable. i&amp;#8217;m sorry for always looking to other things / people for completion. i&amp;#8217;m sorry for always being so proud and selfish. i&amp;#8217;m sorry that this clay jar is so rebellious and unglorifying / disgusting / whatever it is. i&amp;#8217;m sorry this is turning out to sound so masochistic because i know that You gave Your life up for me not for me to wallow about in guilt and self-indulgence but for hope, but tonight i&amp;#8217;m really tired of trying and i&amp;#8217;m tired that i can&amp;#8217;t see any progress and i&amp;#8217;m tired that my thoughts sound like the thoughts i had a year ago and i&amp;#8217;m tired of trying to see whatever internal transformation is supposed to take place when to me, i&amp;#8217;m just the same bloody old sinful arrogant undisciplined selfish person.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;tonight is, just, not, working, out, i need more sleep / patience / prayer / panacea (whatever it is - love peace hope joy faith) i think.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;strike&gt;meow ok really how do those people do it&lt;/strike&gt; comparison is the root of all evil i must remember we have all fallen short of Your standards&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;): ): ): ): ): tonight is not a good night&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52063834826</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/52063834826</guid><pubDate>Mon, 03 Jun 2013 12:26:00 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>odditiesoflife:

The Wheel House
“The Wheel House” is a project...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/72e8d5413fbb6e8d3d94c4ecfbfe5887/tumblr_mnmmbu8Dmd1rw872io1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/05cd4abd71a3c9f4850b074bd314e82f/tumblr_mnmmbu8Dmd1rw872io2_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/c9cbfce9d453f47f938cac3b2ec0852c/tumblr_mnmmbu8Dmd1rw872io3_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://curioushistory.com/post/51790001442/the-wheel-house" target="_blank"&gt;odditiesoflife&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;The Wheel House&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“&lt;strong&gt;The Wheel House&lt;/strong&gt;” &lt;strong&gt;is a project of Acrojou Circus Theatre, which carries two acrobats to explore the world on their circular house. An unusual performance between acrobatics and humor, centered on this incredible rolling house where each object is attached to the main structure, creating a surreal rolling habitat without floor or ceiling. They have already presented their creation in Ireland, Holland, France, Belgium, Spain, Israel and England.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51947904907</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51947904907</guid><pubDate>Sun, 02 Jun 2013 02:02:27 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/e7a8c5cc69d6780bccdd419c8ee1e065/tumblr_mkcrk2HBYr1s9rax6o1_400.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51947894550</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51947894550</guid><pubDate>Sun, 02 Jun 2013 02:02:15 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>lemonsweetie:

Let me tell you a thing, about an amazing man...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/ea33938449b401cb41428252d430849f/tumblr_mnj98omm9e1s424vro1_400.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/c0f82ed180b4128fc82c27ed027f4372/tumblr_mnj98omm9e1s424vro2_400.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/893471d1baa213858f3231cefe590314/tumblr_mnj98omm9e1s424vro7_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/28ad27157ccb884e7fb7651f4dbaba6b/tumblr_mnj98omm9e1s424vro3_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/4b11d77c5a47aac66c8c907e60845629/tumblr_mnj98omm9e1s424vro5_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/f9862a8dea9f27085cd034defe69b7c4/tumblr_mnj98omm9e1s424vro4_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/c38996b1a870fed8a760ffd0f22d85dc/tumblr_mnj98omm9e1s424vro6_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://lemonsweetie.tumblr.com/post/51652237280/let-me-tell-you-a-thing-about-an-amazing-man" target="_blank"&gt;lemonsweetie&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Let me tell you a thing, about an amazing man named Patrick Stewart&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;small&gt;I went to Comicpalooza this weekend and I was full of nervous energy as I was standing in line to ask Sir Patrick Stewart a question at his panel. I first had to thank him for a speech he had given at &lt;strong&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xi_27bpIb30" target="_blank"&gt;amnesty international&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/strong&gt; about&lt;strong&gt; domestic violence towards women &lt;/strong&gt;. I had only seen it a few months ago but I was still dealing with my own personal experience with a similar issue, and I didn’t know what to call it. After seeing Patrick talk so personally about it I finally was able to correctly call it abuse, in my case sexual abuse that was going to quickly turn into physical abuse as well. I didn’t feel guilty or disgusting anymore. I finally didn’t feel responsible for the abuse that was put upon me. I was finally able to start my healing process and to put that part of my life behind me.&lt;/small&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;small&gt;After thanking him I asked him &lt;strong&gt;“Besides acting, what are you most proud of that you have done in you life (that you are willing to share with us)?”&lt;/strong&gt;. Sir Patrick told us about how he couldn’t protect his mother from abuse in his household growing up and so in her name works with an organization called &lt;strong&gt;&lt;a href="http://refuge.org.uk/" target="_blank"&gt;Refuge&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/strong&gt; for safe houses for women and children to escape from abusive house holds. Sir Patrick Stewart learned only last year that his father had actually been suffering from PTSD after he returned from the military and was never properly treated. In his father’s name he works with an organization called &lt;strong&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.combatstress.org.uk/" target="_blank"&gt;Combat Stress&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/strong&gt; to help those soldiers who are suffering from PTSD. &lt;br/&gt;&lt;/small&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;small&gt;They were about to move onto the next question when Sir Patrick looked at me and asked me &lt;strong&gt;“My Dear, are you okay?”&lt;/strong&gt; I said yes, and that I was finally able to move on from that part of my life. He then passionately said that his mother had done nothing to provoke his father and that even if she had, violence was &lt;strong&gt;never&lt;/strong&gt;, ever a choice a man should make. That it is in the power of men to stop violence towards women. The&lt;em&gt; moderator&lt;/em&gt; then asked &lt;strong&gt;“Do you want a hug?”&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;/small&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;small&gt;Sir Patrick didn’t even hesitate, he smiled, hopped off the stage and came over to embrace me in a hug. Which he held me there for a long while. He told me &lt;strong&gt;&lt;em&gt;“You never have to go through that again, you’re safe now.”&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/strong&gt; I couldn’t stop thanking him. His embrace was so warm and genuine. It was two people, two strangers, supporting and giving love. And when we pulled away he looked strait in my eyes, like he was promising that. He told me to take care. And I will. &lt;/small&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;small&gt;Sir Patrick Stewart is an absolute roll model for men. He is an amazing man and was so kind and full of heart. I want to let everyone know to please find help if you are in a violent or abusive house hold or relationship. There are organizations and people ready to help. I had countless people after the panel thanking me for sharing the story and asking him those questions. Many said they went through similar things. You are not alone.&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/small&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TqFaiVNuy1k" target="_blank"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;X&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;small&gt;^ Here is the video of my question to Sir Patrick Stewart&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/small&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;small&gt;Photos by &lt;a href="https://www.facebook.com/eugene.lee.370515" target="_blank"&gt;Eugene Lee,&lt;/a&gt; Thank you&lt;/small&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;:’) :’) :’)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51882137491</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51882137491</guid><pubDate>Sat, 01 Jun 2013 10:09:00 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>"You can keep sinning, and God will just keep forgiving you, no matter what. This is true, but it..."</title><description>“You can keep sinning, and God will just keep forgiving you, no matter what. This is true, but it doesn’t matter, because: you don’t want to keep sinning. Sin has, time and again failed on its promise to satisfy, and God has always satisfied. God isn’t afraid of the bond you have with your sin because He knows it’s already letting you down. You want more, and He wants more for you.”&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; - &lt;em&gt;Unka Glen (&lt;a href="http://unkaglen.tumblr.com" target="_blank"&gt;unkaglen.tumblr.com&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/em&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51726714368</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51726714368</guid><pubDate>Thu, 30 May 2013 10:59:59 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>the problem with secrets</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;i think, in the end all i want is some confirmation that we existed because if a tree falls in the forest and nobody is around to listen, has it actually fallen?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;em&gt;don&amp;#8217;t let go too soon / don&amp;#8217;t hold on too long&lt;/em&gt; // &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;僕等がいた&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51648517386</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51648517386</guid><pubDate>Wed, 29 May 2013 12:04:00 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys'</title><description>&lt;a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/the-problem-with-boys-will-be-boys_b_3186555.html"&gt;The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys'&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8trsDPpAI5E" target="_blank"&gt;Invasion of AstroMonster&lt;/a&gt;.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“You know! Boys will be boys!” &lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“He’s just going through a phase!”&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;She built a &lt;a href="http://unwinona.tumblr.com/post/30861660109/i-debated-whether-or-not-to-share-this-story" target="_blank"&gt;beautiful, glittery castle&lt;/a&gt; in a public space.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;It was so &lt;a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/04/20/slutwalk-united-states-city_n_851725.html" target="_blank"&gt;tempting&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;He just couldn’t &lt;a href="http://www.secasa.com.au/sections/crisis-centre/common-beliefs-about-rape/" target="_blank"&gt;control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;She &lt;a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Prevent-a-Potential-Rape" target="_blank"&gt;had to keep her building safe&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a &lt;a href="http://thinkprogress.org/justice/2012/08/19/712251/how-todd-akin-and-paul-ryan-partnered-to-redefine-rape/" target="_blank"&gt;big fuss when he knocked it down&lt;/a&gt;. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;His &lt;a href="http://msmagazine.com/blog/blog/2011/05/02/25-facts-about-rape-in-america/" target="_blank"&gt;desire&lt;/a&gt; — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Maybe she “&lt;a href="http://azdailysun.com/news/local/crime-and-courts/article_0aa8be56-f7a3-11e1-b804-0019bb2963f4.html" target="_blank"&gt;shouldn’t have gone to preschool&lt;/a&gt;” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “&lt;a href="http://canyourelate.org/2011/05/24/rape-prevention-tips/" target="_blank"&gt;don’t rape.&lt;/a&gt;”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Not &lt;em&gt;once&lt;/em&gt; did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning.  How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it &lt;em&gt;his&lt;/em&gt; mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There was a third child. He was &lt;em&gt;really smart&lt;/em&gt;. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but &lt;em&gt;only&lt;/em&gt; after she was done building it and &lt;em&gt;said it was OK&lt;/em&gt;. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, &lt;a href="http://www.washingtonian.com/articles/people/george-huguely-and-yeardley-love-love-death-and-lacrosse/" target="_hplink"&gt;mad at an ex-girlfriend&lt;/a&gt; who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respected, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The “&lt;a href="http://www.lfcc.on.ca/HCT_SWASM_4.html" target="_hplink"&gt;overarching attitudinal characteristic&lt;/a&gt;” of abusive men is entitlement.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;beautifully put.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;systematic reform needs to go hand-in-hand with individual empowerment for any sort of change to be effected on our institutionalised hatred-filled society.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;also messed up gp really really badly so i’m going to air my views and convince myself that it is more important to have an opinion that i hold convicted rather than eloquence. hahaha.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;thanks anyway G (: need much grace for the weeks to come&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51647537359</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51647537359</guid><pubDate>Wed, 29 May 2013 11:45:49 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>"I think that’s just it. The fearlessness of falling in love for the very first time, the boundless..."</title><description>“I think that’s just it. The fearlessness of falling in love for the very first time, the boundless trust you deal out, the ideals of happy ever after. I think you only experience all that once. Thereafter, you’re careful. You fear rejection, trust comes so much harder and happy ever after becomes only something you can hope for. I don’t ask to be your first love, how could I fight fate or time or circumstance. But what I ask is in spite of being careful, in me you find it in you to be fearless, trusting, and in me you find your happy ever after.”&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; - &lt;em&gt;&lt;div&gt;well, that’s done then. that’s it. everything i ever wanted to say, has already been said.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;it’s time to go home.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51275883727</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51275883727</guid><pubDate>Fri, 24 May 2013 23:34:39 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>post-soccer finals</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;span&gt;here i am getting the chills from the memory of how we used to feel&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span&gt;&amp;#92;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span&gt;i think secrets are addictive, but esp when they&amp;#8217;re your own&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51154563171</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51154563171</guid><pubDate>Thu, 23 May 2013 12:21:00 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>happy bunny</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;i confess there is a certain vicious thrill in turning one’s back on ideas that would have captivated my past self. as though a proclamation of maturity, or a vehement disowning of the embarrassment of history. nowadays i just avoid everything to do with the word eros.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51061708708</link><guid>http://quarender.tumblr.com/post/51061708708</guid><pubDate>Wed, 22 May 2013 06:35:31 -0400</pubDate></item></channel></rss>
